12 Crazy Lies About Life That You Should Let Go!
Sometimes talking your life up is a very useful tool to correct one or another imbalance. It depends - as almost always - on the dose, as this determines what is remedy and what is poison. If the boundaries between harmless whitewashing and lies become blurred, one does more harm than good. As the saying goes so aptly: No one is blinder than he who does not want to see.
We all know people who desperately want to hold on to the image they have concocted in their imagination. They ignore their poor health as well as their useless or perhaps even abusive partner. Unfortunately, there are no upper limits when it comes to suppressing and whitewashing one's own life. In this article, we'd like to introduce you to 12 life lies that you'd better banish as illusion sooner rather than later.
1. Difficult things are best postponed until later
We have to imagine unpleasant conversations or tasks in our minds like a snowball. When it first appears on the scene, it is small and manageable. Now would be the ideal time to address it. The longer we delay the action it symbolizes, the larger it becomes when we carelessly let it roll towards the valley.
In the process, it not only increases enormously in volume, but also in speed, and at some point becomes an avalanche. Shoving unpleasant things in front of us makes them bigger and more daunting, at least in our minds. The mere thought of it makes us shudder at some point. If we would have gotten rid of it right away, it would not occupy us any longer than absolutely necessary.
2. There is only one right way to live
The family idyll with father, mother, child, the terraced house in the suburbs, a degree, a career - there is widespread belief that a life path must be clearly mapped out. It's best to do everything the way your parents and everyone else do it, then nothing can go wrong. But this is a mistake: Thinking in such tradition-bound pigeonholes has already made whole generations of people unhappy.
Taking up a certain profession, for example, just because it is customary in the family, can result in lifelong frustration. Starting a family just because that's what you do and photos of your kids at your desk in the office look so cute is also the wrong approach, which can mean more suffering than joy for everyone involved.
3. Everyone is up to something
There's no harm in healthy distrust when dealing with strangers. But automatically suspecting a criminal or fraud in everyone eventually leaves us lonely and bitter. We tend to first reject everything that is foreign and unknown to us. This is also the case with new contacts. You don't have to open your heart and home to them right away, but everyone deserves a fair chance to prove themselves.
4. Being alone equals loneliness
This is the misconception of many who have never known the pleasure of being alone. The fear of a life of loneliness makes people do the most miserable things. They remain in toxic relationships, giving everything and more just to avoid being left alone. The sad truth is: many people are much lonelier in their unhappy relationships than they would be alone. An expectation that is disappointed every day kills any spark of joy in life over time.
5. We can do without bad times.
No, they absolutely are not, even if in our sometimes quite naive and childish idea of life we would like them to be. We need the stone in our shoe, the defeats and disappointments, in order to really learn to appreciate the good times. Besides, every crisis makes us tougher and wiser. Bad times and strokes of fate are the salt without which life would be a bland succession of always nice and monotonously uniform days.
6. Safety first
Unfortunately, many people still succumb to this misconception. Since childhood, we have been taught that stability and orderly financial circumstances are the be-all and end-all of a happy life. This is not true. They are a prerequisite for a happy life, but not the only one and certainly not the most important one. Security is good. Being trapped in it and never taking a step outside familiar paths is deadly. Indeed, the pursuit of security then keeps us away from all that would gladden our hearts and awaken our spirit of adventure.
7. Feelings are a sign of weakness
Entire generations of people have been led astray by this principle. In fact, the exact opposite is true. If you have to be strong, you can't ignore your feelings. Otherwise, they will smolder in your chest until they explode at the guaranteed wrong time like an explosion or eat away at you like a cancer.
8. Everyone else is fine
Right. No one has problems but us. This attitude is still indebted to the persistent rumor that people's sorrow and suffering must be seen on the outside. So, if you don't appear on the scene bent over and in tears, you don't have any worries or problems. If there is one thing in life that we can rely on with certainty, it is that every person has his or her baggage to carry.
9. Dreaming is a waste of time
It is precisely our imagination, our fantasy and the ability to immerse ourselves in completely alien worlds using only the power of our thoughts that can give us lift and momentum when we are bogged down in real life. If you don't build castles in the air, you'll never know what it feels like to live in one.
10. A nice life isn’t possible for everyone
This mindset probably dates back to imperial times or those days when most of the population had to slave as serfs for the privileged nobility. Those who still think this way probably just refuse to take responsibility for their lives. As long as there is free access to education for all, every person can build the life of his dreams. Those who want to will find a way, those who don't will find an excuse.
11. It doesn't get any better
Yes, it does, it can get better every day if we are open to that idea and don't lock out happiness by putting our comfortable routine and need for security first. As long as we breathe, we can take a new direction every day and experience great things. The secret to success for this is only 2 words: Do it.
12. We are happy when all our wishes are fulfilled.
If this sentence were really true, there would only be happy millionaires and superstars in the world. However, a glance at the news suggests otherwise.
Today’s Conclusion: Who are you trying to fool?
Our life is the sum of all our decisions. This quote from Albert Camus is basically all we need to know to get going. Those who always blame circumstances for their own unhappiness should consider who created them. Life is too short to fool yourself every day. The only person who can come in like a superhero and save us is ourselves. That's it for today. Thank you very much and see you soon.