10 Tips You Won’t Like That Are Guaranteed To Make You Stronger! You NEED To Know This!
We have to explore life one step at a time. How convenient would it be if we had all the knowledge we accumulate throughout our lives at the very start? But life is a learning process and the sooner we recognize this, the easier it’ll be for us. Some lessons will be hard and uncomfortable.
However, you can rest assured that this is all not without reason. If you're ready for some useful insights from those willing to share from their wealth of experience, here are 10 frank pieces of advice you probably won't like, but will certainly help you if you take them on board.
1. Sometimes Your Best Isn't Enough
No matter how hard we try, sometimes it just isn't enough. This can be both due to the circumstances and the fact that the desired goal may not be intended for us. If we put our money on the wrong horse when it comes to our ambitions, we are left taking one step forward and two steps back.
Unfortunately, we often don't always realize this, or we realize only when it's too late. Nevertheless, giving your best is of course necessary in all situations. It’s the only way we can save ourselves from failing before we even begin.
2. Someone Will Always Be One Step Ahead of You.
There are always people around us who are more beautiful, smarter, wealthier and more influential than we are. But those who see life as a competition have already lost. We shouldn't let ourselves be blinded too much by what’s on the outside. Much of what others present to us as the real them is nothing more than an illusion that they themselves have to cling to with all their might.
What makes comparison even less useful is that our situations can be completely different. While we may only be at the beginning, i.e. in phase one of our personal or professional development, someone else may have been stuck in phase three for a long time. If you constantly compare yourself to others, you will always feel like you’re lagging behind, leaving you in a perpetual state of dissatisfaction.
3. You Can't Save the Whole World.
Sometimes we can feel a sense of despair at the news o the things occurring around us. There are so many challenges to deal with and so many people who urgently need our help that we don't know where to start. The sad truth is that we can’t save everyone.
Some people don't want our help and would only drag us into their abyss if we tried. If you really want to do good, focus on a single area, perhaps charity or volunteering. If the tragedy is too heartbreaking for you, distance yourself from frontline work and find other ways to help without making yourself suffer.
4. Money is the Priority.
We can argue it any way we want. Without money, the world would stop turning and our lives would come to a standstill. It may be true that the best things in life are free, but to access and enjoy them, you need capital. No life plan, no matter how minimalist, can do without money. We can learn to live with less,swear off consumption and limit ourselves in daily life using every trick in the book, but even this modest existence would still cost us money.
The sooner we get rid of this romantic notion that doing without money will make us happy, the better. Money buys us all the prerequisites for happiness. A safe and warm home is just as much a part of this as food in the fridge and a rainy day buffer for bad times.
5. Life is Not Short!
We're all getting older. We owe the Roman translation of the ancient Greek medical textbook "corpus hippocraticum" from the fifth century BC for the saying life is short. This was at a time when the average life expectancy was actually about half of what it is today.
At that time, epidemics and diseases threatened the population to an extent we can no longer imagine today. Our current average life expectancy is around eighty-five years. Statistically, women can look forward to two to three more years than men.
6. Not All People Are Loyal and Reliable.
We will never be able to completely rule out or prevent ourselves from being stabbed in the back by someone we trust. When in doubt, people will make the decision of who to trust for themselves. You don't have to go through life constantly suspicious and with clenched fists all the time, but you should stay alert and not be overly disappointed if someone does betray you.
7. Even Long-term Relationships Can Be Bad.
Unfortunately, the length of a relationship says nothing about its quality. Instead, it often only reflects the perseverance or the degree of desperation among those involved. Eternal purgatory is sometimes a more accurate label than heaven.
8. If You Have Doubts About Your Relationship, You Should Leave.
Yes, it's that simple. A relationship that leaves you with constant doubts and a bad gut feeling making you look for an easy way out with a potential new partner is not a good one. As soon as you have to think about whether your relationship is really what you want it to be, that clear answer is that it’s not and probably never will be.
9. There is No Such Thing as a Perfect Decision.
When we choose between A and B, one option must always be sacrificed. The more complicated the choice that lies before us, the more possibilities we must forego by making a decision. This dilemma underlines the agony of choice. Unfortunately, it will always be the case that you are not 100 percent satisfied with a decision. The feeling of missing out on something better remains omnipresent for us all.
10. Forgive a Lot, But Don’t Allow Cheating
If your partner is cheating on you, even if they say it's just a harmless affair that didn't mean anything, don't defend them. First of all, it is never harmless to betray those closest to you and walk all over them. Second, statistics clearly indicate that once a cheater always a cheater. You are doing yourself and your relationship no good by forgiving an affair.
You simply open the floodgates to make this a recurring theme in your relationship. According to a study published in a prestigious journal, someone who has cheated before is three times more likely to do it again. If not with you, then in the next relationship. Forgiving and forgetting an infidelity will harm all partners who come after you in the long run.
Today’s Conclusion:
Some day we will all die. But on the other days, we will not. We owe this grand view of life to Charles Schulz, who put these words of wisdom into the mouths of his philosophically gifted anti-heroes, Charlie Brown and Snoopy. Only by directing our view of life in exactly this direction can we benefit. It is neither short, painful, unjust, tedious or meaningless. Life is what we make of it. That's it for today. Thank you and see you soon.