Reasons Why People Lose Respect for You!
When acceptance is lacking. Respect, as we all know, is the prerequisite for interpersonal interaction. Once it's history, the relationships involved don't have long to live either. Whether at work or in private life, disrespect must not become the rule of the day.
When boundaries are crossed or no longer recognized, an invisible dam is broken. Unfortunately, this circumstance cannot be undone. There are many reasons why other people have no respect for us. We show the six most common ones in this article.
1. You try to control the people around you.
Nobody appreciates being dominated or controlled. Even if you had the authority, such as being a supervisor, it's not a nice thing to insist on that right. Control is a form of demonstration of power that truly powerful people can afford to relinquish.
If, on the other hand, you can't stop sticking your nose into other people's business and forcing your opinion on everyone, respect for you will evaporate pretty soon. You don't show any with your behavior and respect is not a one-way street.
The more often you act petty and domineering, the faster your personal respect account sinks. You are not only outing yourself as a dominant and begrudging character, you are also showing an enormous amount of weakness with this behavior, and the weak have a particularly hard time gaining respect.
2. You apologize too often.
The exact opposite of the control freak is the eternal confession of guilt. Women in particular unfortunately still make this tactical mistake very often. They start far too many of their sentences with "I'm sorry, but..." and thus open the door to the suspicion that they might actually always be to blame for something.
If you voluntarily put on the penitent's robe every day, you will eventually get trapped in that role. If you are also a chronic sorry-sayer, try to consciously pay attention to how often you apologize to others in the course of a day. Every time you do so, you give them an indirect excuse to have less and less respect for you. This does not have to be the fault of the others. You yourself manifest the thought in their perception that you are incompetent and incapable.
After all, if you constantly make mistakes, at some point you can no longer be taken for what you are. So be sparing with the apology phrase. Use it sincerely when you've really screwed something up, but never just as an empty phrase. This will eventually become a kind of boomerang that will fall on your head sooner rather than later.
3. You always put yourself in the center.
You like to hold monologues without end, but never let those around you have their say? Only your opinion counts and everyone else has no idea? With this behavior, you actively contribute to the fact that in time no one will have a spark of respect for you anymore.
You signalize with your constant dominance of the conversation that you do not value the opinion of others. Thus the disrespectful behavior actually comes from you, the others react only accordingly and actually completely correctly to it. When respect is lost, it is never a one-sided affair. It is always the case that one side provides the cause and the other reacts accordingly.
Even the most righteous and selfless among us humans would not tolerate disrespectful behavior forever, even if they are blessed with above-average understanding of their fellow human beings.
4. You break your promises.
Certainly not everyone sees broken promises as radically as Erich Fried. He equated them with spoken crimes and thus unconsciously set a very high standard in terms of handshake quality. If you want to be quickly and reliably on the outs with your contemporaries, promise them great things and never keep them.
No path leads to social extinction faster than being exposed as a phony or an imposter. What gets us the respect and approval of our peers is our actions, not our words. The discrepancy between these two is a sure ticket to social irrelevance. Sooner rather than later, no one will take a storyteller seriously. The result is a distinct lack of respect.
5. You don't pay attention to your boundaries.
You don't just get treated badly, you let it happen. If you let it happen once that your boundaries are shamelessly crossed and you are treated disrespectfully and begrudgingly, your silence gives consent for further assaults. It’s not easy for some people to stand up for their cause and many of us are always interrupted by the need for harmony. But the truth is that no one can defend our borders except ourselves.
Once you earn the reputation of being the nation's punching bag and court jester, word of this inglorious behavior toward you will spread like the latest rumor. To make matters worse, almost nothing comes easier to us than accepting bad behavior from others. Too tempting is the prospect of trampling on others without fear of consequences, to feel superior at least once in a while.
After all, disrespect is the small man's means of self-assertion, as the German writer Rupert Schützbach recognized.
6. You ignore the opinions of others.
If you don't let others have their say, consistently ignore their suggestions and ideas, and place no value whatsoever on a different point of view, you shouldn't be surprised if respect no longer flows in streams. This behavior is not only downright rude, it also shows a great deal of stupidity and a lack of social competence.
Why? Every person has an opinion. He or she also has knowledge and competence, which not everyone has. So not to consider all possible points of view on a matter is evidence of short-sightedness of the highest order. Sooner or later, you will find yourself alone on a hilltop and wonder why you are no longer on it-list of your acquaintances.
This circumstance becomes critical, however, in the professional context. If you can't accept any opinion other than your own, you'll not only damage your reputation, but also your company at some point.
Today’s Conclusion:
No respect, no character. Respect, as we all know, is always based on reciprocity. In some areas, you have to earn it first. In the interpersonal environment, however, it should be a matter of course. Without respect, no cooperation can succeed.
The good news in this context is that we can do a great deal ourselves to ensure that we are accepted by others and treated as full members of society with equal rights. We earn respect with our words, our behavior and, above all, with our actions. We can only change the way our fellow human beings perceive us to a limited extent.
Our character, however, is something we can shape and tweak throughout our lives, or in the words of Hollywood legend Bruce Lee, "Knowledge gives us power, but character gets us respect and recognition." That's it for today.