9 Surprising Secrets About Irresistible, Attractive People!
Neither beauty nor wealth makes us into magical beings. The prettiest face and the deepest pockets are useless if our personality doesn't make people want to spend time with us. On the other hand, we often meet genuine people that on the surface, appear to have nothing TO offer.
But don't they prove us wrong when they start to talk, show us a winning smile, or simply blow us away with their charm, eloquence and authenticity. If you want to know the secret of these charismatic characters, here are 9 surprising facts that recent psychological studies have brought to light.
1. The best style is a smile
The power of a true smile cannot be emphasized enough. It’s beautiful, the most contagious thing ever, and it’s the quickest way for two strangers to make a connection. Considering all of the faces of the many people we see day in, day out, it soon becomes clear why a smile is so uplifting for us.
It’s such an effective act of kindness. It would be so easy for a smile to brighten the day of others around us, and ours as well. Perhaps not every smile will be met with the desired reaction, but most of them come back to us and this moment when we manage to make a complete stranger smile, is amazing.
It costs us nothing, but it’s definitely worth it. For a lot of people, it might be the best part of their day when a stranger gives them a smile that truly comes from the heart.
2. Integrity is a priority
It’s actually the good old values like loyalty and the quality of their handshake that makes a person seem attractive or not. Someone who proves themselves to be untrustworthy that constantly changes their allegiances will never have us under their spell. Such behavior reeks of cold calculation. Tactical maneuvers like this automatically cast people in a bad light, it doesn’t show their best side.
3. They keep it real
People who don’t pretend to be someone else will score more points with the people around them. A lot of people are still under the false impression that they can pretend in front of others. But only very few people actually fall for the act, so it gives the impression that they’re trying to dupe everyone around them.
People who know their good and their bad qualities, can admit when they’re wrong, and let others know here and there that they are aware they’re far from perfect will gain sympathy points in no time. Nobody likes a liar, a fake, or a con artist, and this applies to how attractive we find them as well.
4. They respect other people’s opinions
There are as many opinions in the world as there are people. This sheer number makes it absolutely pointless to argue about our views. Those who let others have their say and finish their sentence in peace show respect, talking to them as equals.
Those who always have to be in the right, even if the facts clearly indicate otherwise, soon become a reg flag at any social occasion. People avoid those who constantly think they know better and preach their truth as the only truth like the plague. They repulse people, and certainly do not attract them.
5. It’s okay if not everyone likes them
Being confident in your opinions and your position in life is the basis of adult life. On the contrary, those who are always looking for applause and trying to be everybody’s favorite person no matter the cost will end up alone and friendless. Spineless people who go with crowd and agree with every opinion they encounter seem unreliable. They also exude an air of desperation as they quite clearly will do anything to maintain their social footing.
6. They put people first
In a time when bureaucracy reigns and rules and regulations are confusing and difficult to understand, where all that seems to matter are profit margins and the bottom line, genuine philanthropists are a refreshing exception to the rule. Asking a simple, “How are you doing?” hardly ever crosses anyone’s mind, never mind leaves their lips.
But these simple interactions can be the difference between night and day when it comes to how we come across to others. Addressing others by their names also ensures that they feel immediately valued and respected. And this isn’t a nasty manipulation technique, it’s the basics of a polite and caring conversation. When you put people first, it can only bring good things.
7. Small talk is good, but deep conversations are better
Sometimes the situation arises where we have to quickly spark a conversation with strangers. Either we’re stuck at a table with them, or we have to pass the time until the official structure begins. These kinds of moments call for small talk. It’s just not the time or the place to talk about private, heartfelt matters with complete strangers. But there comes a point where you’ve said all that can be said about the weather or the traffic.
Anyone who can manage to steer conversation onwards and give the conversation a nudge towards more meaningful content and away from trivialities will instantly gain support. We like people who have something to say, just as much as we like those who can listen well and seem genuinely interested in our concerns. This will also show authenticity and that you are above your own ego.
8. They treat others how they expect to be treated
Perhaps you’ve heard the golden rule of interacting with others. It says: Always treat others how you, yourself wish to be treated. This rule is great and all, but it can still be beaten. The platinum rule says: Treat others as they would like to be treated. If you are attentive and observant, you’ll soon be able to learn exactly what others need.
Some people need lots of praise and compliments, while this would make others feel like they were being made fun of. There are people who want to be needed, and some that prefer to be left alone. Anyone who manages to work out how others tick, and be accommodating to their needs, will be instantly popular.
9. Respect is important to them
The fate of every interpersonal relationship either thrives or fails based on respect, whether professional, or personal. The irresistible people among us would never commit the cardinal sin of treating people differently because they have a different cultural or social background to them.
Today’s conclusion: Ravishing, captivating, attractive, and alluring
Have you ever noticed that all of these synonyms for an enchanting, irresistible person are centered around the fact that we are drawn in by them and cannot escape from their spell? All these words essentially mean that these people are like a magnet. Even the most calloused among us find it hard not to succumb to their magic. At the same time, it’s difficult to find anything to truly criticize.
People that respect others, stay true to themselves, and feel no need to manipulate their environment or use other means for their own gain, automatically have a head start in terms of being liked. Values such as respect, honesty, integrity and mutual appreciation are what counts in the end. Attractiveness is not a question of appearance, but a question of character.