7 Signs You Are a Strong Woman With a Gentle Heart
The emancipation of women has left its mark on our consciousness and created an image of the strong woman who doesn't need a man. She can do anything a man can do. She manages life on her own, balances a career and children, can be successful and happy without a man. It was good and important for women and their consciousness to develop this power. But now it's time to find balance and allow the full feminine power to come forth.
Feminine power is gentle and full of flowing energy that is not rational but intuitive. Strong women don't just use their minds, they listen to their inner voice, intuition, and heart. They bring heart and mind into harmony. In this article you will see why strong women are only really strong when they maintain a gentle heart.
1. You’re a Good Listener
When people around you have problems, they like to discuss them with you. You give them space for their pain; they feel comfortable and safe with you. They trust you, so they dare to be vulnerable with you. You take the time to listen and give full attention to them; you are open and not judgmental. Not even in silence. You feel the pain and let the other person know that you are with them. You listen to yourself and speak what your heart tells you. Even if there is no immediate solution, you endure the uncertainty for both of you.
2. You Tell the Truth Even if It Hurts
When someone comes to you and asks you for advice because they're struggling with a problem and see no solution, you’re honest with your reply. You listen carefully and you develop a feeling for the situation. You know that honest feedback is more helpful in solving a problem than “diplomatic” sidestepping of the truth for fear of potential consequences. When you feel the truth might hurt, you are able to put it into clear but loving words.
3. You Are Resilient
You have the ability to repeatedly pull yourself and others out of emotional lows. After some time, you are able to see your problem, see where you stand, and figure out how to go forward. You access your power, refuse to see a problem as insoluble, and take a step-by-step approach to always find a way to better the situation for yourself and others. You radiate this energy to your fellow human beings and help them to find their own strength and to tackle their own difficulties.
4. You Take in the Pain of Others and Give Them Support
You can't stand to see others doing badly. You are immediately drawn to them and listen with your whole soul. You literally absorb their pain and share it with them. With your warmth and compassion you radiate positive energy to them and infect them with it. You make their suffering seem smaller just by being there and being who you are. In this way you help them more easily deal with pain or problems and develop a healthier outlook on life.
5. You Know Your Limitations.
You are warm and compassionate, always there for others, and often put your own needs aside. But you know very clearly where your limits are and you draw the line. You have a strong will, stand up for yourself, and don't let yourself be fooled. You don't let others take your commitment to them for granted. If people around you try to put you down, whether consciously or unconsciously, you lay down the law to them clearly and openly. You also don't tolerate others being put down. You back them up.
6. You Never Give Up
Even on days when you're feeling down, exhausted, sad, or helpless, you know that you can overcome whatever obstacles come your way. Even if you don't have the strength right now, you know that you can overcome any obstacle. You know what to do. You are resilient and always get back up. You give yourself the time you need to find peace and clarity. You allow yourself to look into your heart and understand your pain.
That way, over time, you'll know exactly what you need to do to get back on your feet. You take responsibility for your mistakes and you learn from them. You increase your strength so you are completely ready and able again to tackle your challenges.
7. You Don't Openly Reveal Your Feelings
Always being there for others is exhausting and requires a lot of energy. But you don't complain. Even if you're having a bad day, you don't want others to know. You hide your feelings behind a smile and don't want to burden those around you with your problems. You know you can handle it yourself.
After all, you know the path you have to take to get back on your feet. And yet here again you may not be able to be completely honest with yourself nor with those around you. It's difficult to show your vulnerability at the same time that you are trying to show strength, but sometimes it's okay to lean on a friend or loved one, share your sorrow, and trust that you, too, will be accepted with your weaknesses and pain—that another has room for it.
Today’s Conclusion
Emotional strength doesn't mean you don't bear heartache, are never sad, fearful, distressed, nor helpless. The first step in developing this power is to dare to look at and accept these feelings, to allow vulnerability. To really endure such feelings requires courage, but that is exactly where the strength within you lies.
If you take this first step again and again, you learn that you have the strength to endure negative feelings, you learn to deal with them. Through this you gain self-confidence and trust in yourself. This enables you to be soft on the inside, gentle and compassionate, and at the same time to live confidently and strongly on the outside.