7 THINGS That YOU Should NEVER Feel Guilty For!

You probably know this feeling: you feel bad because you did something good for yourself, you have a guilty conscience when you feel good, or you get a guilty conscience for no reason and don't really know where it comes from.

In order to experience and live out our own happiness, it is especially important to allow ourselves to be happy. Otherwise, excessive self-criticism and self-reproach can quickly lead to perfectionism or depression. In this article, we'll introduce you to seven situations that you shouldn't feel guilty about in the future. 

1. Asking others for help

There's no shame in asking other people for help. Maybe you always feel bad in those moments and think that others might think you are weak or incapable if you ask them for help. Or maybe you're afraid of being too much of a burden to others, and instead you insist on shouldering your own tasks. But there is nothing wrong with asking others for help from time to time. No one can do everything in life completely alone.

Besides, it can be really instructive for you to accept the help of others. It’s a way for you to realize that there are people in your life who care about you and who will stand by you in a difficult situation. Asking for help and accepting it is a sign of confidence rather than weakness. You should therefore encourage yourself when you ask for help from others and not judge yourself for it.

2. Saying No When You Must

You may often feel bad when you have to deny others their wishes or cannot give them what they would like. Or you have a lot of trouble doing this at all, and instead always meet the expectations and specifications of others. It is healthy and important to stand by your own needs and desires. It’s simply not possible to please everyone.

Saying no when you don't want something or don't think it's right is extremely important if you want to take responsibility for yourself. Otherwise, self-loathing can result if you never manage to stand up for your own desires and distance yourself from others. Or at some point you become afraid of other people's demands and react irritably or with rejection. It's perfectly okay to say no if you don't think something is okay. Others will forgive you for it, and you'll feel better and more secure.

3. Ending energy-draining relationships

It's often extremely difficult to end harmful relationships. Sometimes you just think the partner you love is doing you good, and in reality, they are robbing you of energy, self-esteem, and love of life. But there can also be energy-sapping relationships in the work or family environment.

In these cases, you must act and free yourself from this unhealthy relationship. You are responsible for your life and you have to make sure that your self-esteem is not destroyed by poisonous personalities. In the long run, these relationships can wear down your dreams, ideas and self-esteem. It is your responsibility to stop this.

4. Not being perfect

Maybe you're always afraid of making mistakes and not being perfect. You're under constant pressure because you're afraid all your mistakes will come to light and you're always trying to function as perfectly as possible. Stop doing that. It's not healthy to live like that. No one in the world is perfect. Everyone knows this phrase, but try to really take it into your consciousness, because it's true.

Nobody is perfect, and nobody can do everything really well. It's also perfectly okay not to be perfect and to make mistakes. That's the only way you can learn something and have the opportunity and freedom to change. It's the rough edges that make a person really interesting. Learn to accept your quirks and mistakes and do not strive for some strange ideal. Your rough edges are what make you the person you are.

5. The desire for personal happiness

You should definitely not feel guilty because you are happy and others may not understand that. Every person has the responsibility to find out what makes them happy. Everyone answers the question of what makes them happy individually. Therefore, there is no wrong or right approach.

If something makes you happy, that's perfectly fine, even if other people may prefer other things. You are allowed to live out and enjoy your own happiness and don't have to feel guilty about it. Try to enjoy the moments when you are happy and don't question yourself all the time.

6. Claiming time for yourself

It's totally normal and natural to need time for yourself every now and then. Time to sort out your own thoughts and just take care of yourself. Maybe you're also one of those people who find it hard to give yourself time for yourself. It might seem like the people in your life always have some kind of problem, and you always have an open ear.

But there are also situations in your own life, or simply emotionally heavy situations, where you need a little time for yourself. That's perfectly okay, and you shouldn't feel guilty about turning people down. In the long run, it's important to claim enough space for yourself to meet your own needs, not the needs of others.

7. Being successful

No one should feel guilty about having professional success. You may be one of those people who always hide their light under a bushel and try to avoid standing out as much as possible. Even if a particularly tricky task turns out well and the boss praises you, you tend to feel embarrassed.

Instead, celebrate your successes and don’t be ashamed of them. You have achieved something great and can be happy about it. You probably put in a lot of time and effort to get here. Acknowledge your own achievement instead of judging yourself. You can be proud when you have achieved success.

Today’s Conclusion

If some of the points just described apply to you, pause for a moment. Really realize that you are allowed to feel and experience happiness and that there is no reason to judge yourself or feel bad when you are happy. Learn to do the things that make you happy and feel good about them. Only you can do the things that make you happy. That's it for today.