THIS Is How You Start Fresh! Declutter Your Soul and Get Rid of All That Unnecessary Baggage!
We are who we are. After 30 at the latest, we are finished adults who try to prove ourselves in this role in the best possible way. Finding our own way and staying true to ourselves is certainly the most difficult part. Along the way, however, we also accumulate a number of habits that are basically of no use to us. They burden our soul and also our heart. Often they are products of negative beliefs from childhood and adolescence or of a social environment in which we desperately want to fit in. But the fact is: What is not useful to you ultimately prevents you from moving forward. You carry around too much unnecessary baggage that prevents you from taking off. In this article, we'll introduce you to six of these things that you can safely banish from your life.
1. Seeing things only in black or white.
Of course, it makes dealing with the adverse things of everyday life much easier if we categorize them in a matter of seconds. Important and unimportant, right and wrong, good or bad, that saves us time and thought. Nevertheless, there are always the subtle nuances that we should not overlook. Especially the assessment of our fellow human beings and their way of life can very quickly lead us to a wrong judgment, if we are too quick with it. Behind every person is a whole life with all its ups and downs, a personal history and a past. How others present themselves to us often has little in common with the facts. The same is true of circumstances that happen, or things that have happened to you. Ask yourself analogously to the famous poem "The Art of Losing" by Elizabeths Bishop - is it unbearable? You'll find it rarely is.
2. Control, control, control
Of course, it's fun and gives us no small amount of satisfaction to keep at least 10 balls in the air at the same time every day and juggle our way through the day skillfully and confidently. If your motto is also always keep everything under control, it's time for you to use this tactic a little more sparingly. Some people find this easier than others. For them, loss of control goes hand in hand with loss of face. They then already see the apocalypse approaching in their mind's eye and the end of the world drawing near. Control is sometimes necessary and good, it keeps things running and ensures that we can feel safe and secure. But as everywhere else, the dose makes the poison. First, it's completely impossible to keep everything and everyone in check anyway. Secondly, you use up a lot of energy that could be used for much nicer things. And thirdly: Imagine how many wonderful things could happen if you simply let fate or the universe take care of them. You probably won't be able to get out of your amazement.
3. Later is still time enough
How many people do you know who have postponed a dream trip or a passion until their retirement and then unfortunately never got to experience it? Later, unfortunately, often means never. Be aware that there is hardly ever a right time for anything in life. The desire to have children, a career, a job change, a separation or a move: no one will be able to tell you the best time for this. However, you know in your innermost being when the time has come and will no longer tolerate any delay. The same applies to comparatively unimportant projects such as a trip or learning how to cook puffer fish correctly. You will not suffer any real loss if these plans, for whatever reason, can no longer be realized, but it would be a shame. In life, unfortunately, sometimes the principle applies: He who hesitates has already lost.
4. Being constantly on stand-by
It's hard to believe, but the world keeps on turning even if you don't give your full 100% 24 hours a day. If you're used to functioning perfectly all the time and being ready for others at all times, here's a news flash for you. Shift down a gear and enjoy the scenery as it passes you by. Your resources are not infinite and the beautiful things in life do not repeat on a continuous loop. Allow yourself at least a little time for yourself in between. And do something beautiful that does your soul good and gladdens your heart. Meet with people you can think out loud and laugh heartily with. Enjoy a nice meal and a good conversation together. You can save the world again tomorrow. No one will deny you this job.
5. Fight against windmills
These can also lie dormant in yourself. You can't stand the fact that you constantly put things on the back burner? You should finally do more sports? These and other disputes with your inner self are pointless. It always wins and you know it. At a certain age, we should be reconciled to our imperfections and show a certain amount of generosity and understanding towards the person with whom we are guaranteed to spend the rest of our lives, namely ourselves. But at some point, we should also finally put other fronts to rest. We should simply mute and ignore parents, neighbors, colleagues or other individuals who want to make life difficult for us on a full-time basis simply for the sake of it. This takes the wind out of the sails of potential troublemakers and simply lets their begrudging ambitions go to waste.
6. False guilt
There's nothing wrong with guilt if it's well-founded. When you've acted wrongly or behaved badly, it's something like a silent compass that guides you back to the right path. However, it is completely pointless and inappropriate if you feel guilty because you are doing well, you are doing better than others and your life is just perfect at the moment. Always remember: We are dealt the cards, but we have to play them ourselves. Of course, many people get into difficult situations now and then through no fault of their own. However, everyone can do a lot to make things better. This category also includes: Allow yourself a little luxury from time to time. Enjoy it and don't be angry with yourself afterwards. It doesn't matter if it's a piece of cake for dessert or a handbag that might be beyond your budget. Whatever pleases you, you have worked for it and definitely deserve it.
Today's Conclusion: No more pointless automatisms.
Our soul can endure a lot. But it is not an endless black hole into which you can safely stuff all the mental waste that accumulates in the course of life. It is clearly too precious for that. You'll also find that it works much better if you give it a clearing out every now and then. Always remember that life is a gift. As long as you're not hurting anyone, you're allowed to draw from the fullest and get the absolute best out of it for yourself. That's it for today.