15 Unpleasant Things You Must Do If You Don’t Want to Regret Your Life!
Loosely based on Friedrich Schiller, you can do quite a bit of damage if you start things off carelessly or miss others. We have for each life only this one attempt. Even if we believe in rebirth and reincarnation, a life wasted or not lived can be an extraordinarily painful process that already feels like eternity on earth, and not the heavenly kind. There is no instruction manual for a successful existence in this world. We live according to the principle of "trial and error" and can perhaps learn a thing or two from contemporaries who have already successfully travelled a fair distance. You can also learn from others if you are open to it. Nevertheless, there are a few simple basic rules that can make our earthly existence easier. We would like to share with you the 15 most important basics for a happy life.
1. Stay true to your dreams, not someone else's
How many of us live a life that isn't ours at all? It always feels a little like the wrong coat you accidentally slipped into. The good news at this point is that it's never too late to make a course correction. If you've allowed yourself to be pushed in a direction professionally, or even personally, that basically doesn't fit your vision of life, you can always change it. It will be uncomfortable, you will have to leave some companions by the wayside and you will encounter a lack of understanding. However, the reward for your efforts will be to live the life you always wanted. To dare this balancing act and finally to pass it with flying colors is certainly not an easy undertaking. Especially when people depend on you and you have a lot of responsibility, there is always the question of whether you can really put your own interests before the common good. But even for this difficult problem there is a solution, a happy medium is possible, with which all parties involved can live well in the end.
2. Create an "important list" for yourself
How often in life do we decide in terms of our external image and reputation, but not in terms of our convictions? Following your heart is probably one of the most difficult exercises, as we constantly strive to please everyone and, most importantly, make a good impression. In a quiet moment, think about how many people really, really matter to you. Whose opinion counts for you and who can be quietly disappointed once in a while or fobbed off with a polite no.
3. Be selective about what you choose to run after.
This point concerns dead-end professional commitments, private commitments that turn out to be a one-way street, or futile social engagements. What doesn't give back to you doesn't have to expect anything from you.
4. Watch your thoughts and words.
How quickly do we get carried away with thoughtless remarks and snide comments? Negativity is like the rotten apple that can infect all the healthy ones in no time. Your thoughts hurt you when they are overly begrudging and gloomy. Your words hurt you and others. If this point is difficult for you, remember the golden rule of small talk. If you don't have something good to say, don't say anything at all.
5. If something bothers you, speak up.
Silence is considered consent. If you tolerate assaultive behavior the first time or let others' disparaging remarks go uncommented on, they will become a habit.
6. Try to be a good person every day.
No, this doesn't mean you should give your belongings to the poor and enter a monastery. Don't harm anyone, make yourself useful and help when you can. Your karma will reward you.
7. Do not burden yourself with the accumulation of material things.
Right now, minimalism is in vogue. Take advantage of this trend by staying ahead of the game and getting rid of clutter you don't need anymore. Things that don't make you feel happy are best donated to charity, sold, or put into storage.
8. Cultivate some form of spirituality, any spirituality.
It doesn't matter what you believe in, just believe in something. There are more things between heaven and earth, this world and the next, than we humans can fathom. Find a spiritual direction that comes closest to your understanding of faith. You don't need to join a religious community or group. You and your inner voice are quite sufficient for this.
9. You should not slam doors that you can leave ajar.
Maintain class and elegance in all situations. This includes leaving jobs and other commitments in style. As we all know, you always meet twice in life.
10. Look for the positives in every situation in life.
You don't have to become a flower child or a naive professional optimist, but just try to always recognize the good in every moment. The bad will then have a much harder time gaining the upper hand.
11. Don't compare yourself with others
Whether in real life or on social media, no one shows us their true colors. Hence, comparing yourself is already misguided from the start and will only make you unhappy. You'd probably even be shocked if you were given a peek behind the facades.
12. Abandonment of the question of guilt
If things are going badly for you, it's the boss's business. Not a problem for subordinates or unknown third parties. Take responsibility for your actions, then the culprit, if you must look for him, can be found quickly.
13. Take care of your body
According to Teresa of Àvila, your physical constitution should always be good enough for your soul to want to live in it. So take good care of yourself and make health more important than your appearance. Refrain from body culture and merciless self-optimization; they do not provide you with moments of happiness.
14. Money is only free if you don't spend it.
The problem with money is, we need it to live, but it must not become more important than life itself. Money does not make us happy, but it makes us free. Instead of investing in meaningless things, invest in your savings and thus in your future. Financial freedom grants you absolute freedom at some point. You will then be able to leave behind any prison that now still rules over you with an iron fist.
15. Stay curious and expand your knowledge
Lifelong learning should be a daily program. Stay open to new things, take courses and read as many books as possible. There is so much to discover and life is comparatively short.
Today’s Conclusion: A life full of possibilities
We no longer have to fight for our survival on a daily basis, yet every person carries a struggle with them that occupies them throughout their lives. The search for meaning, self-realization, the question of happiness and the constant striving for more and constant companions. The sooner we reflect and find the perfect definition of life for us, the more beautiful and fulfilling it will be for us. The secret to success and the recipe for happiness are 2 treasures buried deep within us. That's it for today.