WHY You Should Never Do THESE Things If You’re a Highly Sensitive Person!
Do you consider yourself to be a highly sensitive person? If so, you probably often ask yourself how you should and shouldn't behave in certain everyday situations. In this article, you will learn seven things that you should not do as a highly sensitive person.
1. No bedtime movies that shake you up.
There’s no question that tastes differ. A good movie in the evening is a given for many people, not only on the weekend. For highly sensitive people, however, it is advisable to pay special attention to your choice of film. Comedy or feature films are a much better bedtime treat than nerve-wracking thrillers. This is because films are often remembered in the subconscious. Watching a disturbing film just before bedtime can therefore affect the dreams of highly sensitive people and massively reduce your quality of sleep. Very vivid dreams due to evening films that are not yet processed are about as unfavorable for your sleep as a bucket of ice cream before bed. The flickering images often found in nerve-wracking movies, or the loud, tense background music, can unnecessarily stir up unwanted feelings at the precise time you're supposed to be resting.
2. Hierarchies in the workplace.
Most people in the workplace have a supervisor and often additional unwritten hierarchies as well. Working with such hierarchical relationships tends to result in authoritarian behavior within the group. Stress at work is nothing unusual, but there are certain companies and employers where things can get particularly turbulent. Demanding superiors, but perhaps also annoying colleagues, can be particularly tough on highly sensitive people. These internal structures cannot be changed and those affected usually feel very uncomfortable in such an atmosphere. This is compounded by the way in which criticism is dealt with. On the one hand, highly sensitive people often feel a sense of responsibility and can even be afraid of making mistakes. On the other hand, however, they often take constructive criticism personally, which does not necessarily make it easier for them to deal harmoniously with the boss and other colleagues. For this reason, the creativity and effectiveness of highly sensitive people are more effective in less hierarchically structured workplaces. Choosing the right career path is therefore doubly important.
3. Sensory overload.
Committed party-goers not only need a great deal of stamina, but also a particularly strong set of ears. Not surprisingly, highly sensitive people tend to not be party people, and there are good reasons for this. Strong external stimuli in the form of excessive noise or glaring light can be particularly overwhelming for some and is often enjoyed most by the more hardened among us. A nightly visit to the disco with friends can therefore turn out to be a real test. What is enjoyable for other people can overwhelm the highly sensitive so much that they want nothing more than to take themselves out of the situation, which in the worst case scenario can escalate to a panic attack. Sensory overload can affect anyone. But the personal and subjectively perceived threshold for this varies greatly. This means standing in front of the loudspeakers would hardly cause any discomfort for some, yet even an average volume level could be experienced as uncomfortable and cause downright physical pain for others.
4. Group sports and competition.
Spending a boat load of time at the gym with your best friends or playing soccer as part of a team sounds like a blast, right? At least a significant proportion of highly sensitive people would be skeptical about this. The reason can be found in a deep internal discomfort with competition and competitive situations. Whenever you take part in team sports, there are normally many more eyes on you. This increased attention and the associated willingness of others to criticize you in the event of a mistake is all the more evident in competitive sports. Exercising in a group can therefore trigger a feeling of being observed for highly sensitive people, which they often find difficult to cope with. After all, for every victory there must be a loss and at least one person on the losing team who made mistakes. The nagging feeling of not being good enough makes highly sensitive people very feel uncomfortable.
5. The problem at work with multitasking.
Very sensitive people tend to get overwhelmed when they have to do several things at the same time. This is particularly noticeable in the professional context. Everyone reaches their limit when they feel overloaded. But a less sensitive person may worry less about a higher number of tasks and demands than their peers. A mixture of perfectionism and an intolerance for stress can make everyday life seem like an almost insurmountable hurdle. This is compounded by the fact that the chaotic world of work can sometimes demand unreasonable things from employees. The increased demands of the job and the already tough demands highly sensitive people place on themselves make it difficult to achieve the satisfaction they seek. They then feel a sense of self-doubt and believe that they cannot meet the requirements expected of them. The resulting negative feelings that arise, such as fear or insecurity, in turn have a detrimental effect on their productivity.
6. Criticism at the wrong time.
Although criticism is an unpleasant side effect of everyday life for most people, there are big differences in how it is dealt with between people. Very highly sensitive people look to avoid situations in which they could be exposed to criticism. And this is where it becomes problematic, because flawless or perfect people are not real and just an illusion. The goal should therefore be to improve the personal handling of one's own ability to take criticism, instead of avoiding it as a matter of principle. A life free from criticism sounds nice, even paradise for many highly sensitive people, but it is not practical or feasible. Self-esteem sometimes suffers considerably from the difficult handling of criticism. For this reason, working on developing a more healthy self-esteem should be the top priority.
7. Toxic relationships and people who are not good for you.
Toxic relationships are not good for anyone. But such a relationship has a particularly negative impact on highly sensitive people, as they feel more deeply and intensely than their less sensitive peers. Even a single toxic relationship can break the camel's back and plunge some into a deep crisis. It is possible that these relationships, or toxic partners, cannot be identified from the outset and only gradually turn out to be bad news.A break-off, insofar as it is possible, should be considered after the first clear signs of toxicity, such as brooding over the partner’s behavior or sleepless nights due to insults and injuries.
Our conclusion today.
If you listen to your inner self and ignore all the noise of other people on the outside, you can often make the right decisions based on your natural intuition and avoid situations that are not good for you. But if you do fall into the trap of allowing yourself to be in situations that are not good for you, try to keep calm and concentrate on your strengths instead of falling into a spiral of hopelessness. Try to stay in the moment and always keep a cool head. That's it for today.