THIS Is How YOU Know That a Nice Person Secretly Has Bad Intentions!
We never really know a person. No one can say what's going on in someone else's head. Negative surprises and unpleasant incidents are therefore bound to happen in social interactions. Some people are better at hiding their true intentions than others. Like split personalities, they show the appropriate face at the appropriate hour. There are many talented actors among us. The greater their ambitions, the tougher the methods with which they fight. Pretending to be friendly and nice is just one of them. We'll show you how you can recognize such busy personalities who have 2 faces in this article.
1. Conversations with them are not dialogues
When talking to people who seem friendly, see if you can get a word in edgewise, and if so, do they respond to what you say, or do they immediately turn the conversation back to their agenda? People with ulterior motives can't help but devote every moment of their lives to this agenda. They use every opportunity to rally their troops and gain some advantage for themselves. They have not really mastered the art of good conversation. Small talk quickly becomes too tedious for them, as it keeps them from achieving their goals. It also requires a minimum of politeness and manners, and both are often completely foreign to manipulative individuals. Feel free to let your gut decide whether such people are genuinely interested in talking to you or whether your conversation should go in the particular direction that they are taking it.
2. They sever cleverly packaged insults
A friendly smile can sometimes be a disguised snarl. We don't have to weigh every comment with the gold scale that is imposed on our perception. But if compliments sound rather dubious and praise and recognition sound too much like a closed workshop, we should be skeptical. Toxic characters know very well how to insult us by constructing a friendly word shell around it or they contradict the compliment by immediately invalidating it. Examples? "Congratulations on the new job. Now you just have to prove yourself." Or "You look good. I didn't think you had that kind of discipline." You can see what these comments are aimed at. Stage 1 is meant to lull us into a sense of security. Step 2 is to quickly bring us back down to earth.
3. They pressure you
Truly warm and well-meaning people let us stay as we are. They always follow the motto "live and let live" and would never push their peers in a certain direction. It is different with people who only pretend to be nice. They quickly drop their mask as soon as we get in the way of their plans. Regrettably, their motto is, "If you're not for me, you're against me." This development is likely to be a gradual one. They only lose their temper if they feel they are in serious trouble. Their tactics tend to be friendly ultimatums and passive aggressive psychological terror. These characters rarely truly lose their temper. They know that their cover as a nice person would be history.
4. Facial expressions, gestures and choice of words do not match
Thank God, there are very few people in the world who can truly lie convincingly and mislead those around them. Except for a few sociopaths, we always betray ourselves when we drift from the path of truth. Yet it is not our words at all that convict us. Our body, the old chatterbox, throws a spanner in the works here. In real life, this disproportion simply looks strange. What is said doesn't quite match the body language. The person who is trying to give us an "X" for a "U" here seems more like a remote-controlled person or a talking doll whose motor skills are slightly delayed in trying to keep up with the words that leave its mouth. We probably can't really interpret what is strange about these people. But our unmistakable gut feeling and all our instincts tell us to be on our guard.
5. You feel uncomfortable in their presence
Every encounter with people triggers feelings in us. There is no other way. In the circle of our loved ones and our good friends, we feel free and good, can chat away without hesitation and benefit greatly from these gatherings. Toxic people, on the other hand, no matter how hard they try to keep up appearances, never fool our gut feelings. After a conversation with them, we are strangely exhausted, really drained. We feel a dull feeling in the stomach area and even stress symptoms like headaches or ringing in the ears can be the result. Our mind cannot explain this defensive reaction. Our intuition, on the other hand, has its hands full trying to get us out of this firing range as quickly as possible. It cannot be fooled by a friendly smile and a few pretty words. It recognizes dishonest intentions and deceit at first glance.
6. Their requests sound like demands
Their charade costs seemingly nice people a lot of energy. Constantly having to pretend to be a friendly and charming person when it looks completely different on the inside is no easy undertaking, and certainly not in the long term. In direct contact with their fellow human beings, they must keep their guard up and their facade immaculate. If they have to ask people for a favor, it costs them extra effort. They don't like being in someone's debt. It's no surprise, then, that requests from fake people always sound like a nicely packaged ultimatum. Either they immediately remind us of what they once did for us, or they point out how we would benefit from helping them. In any case, there will never be a simply made request without any overtones and stale aftertaste from these types. This thinking in the sense of "I give, you give" already reveals their character and indicates intentions that are anything but selfless. Another blunder, as far as making a request is concerned, is the more or less clear reference to hierarchies, social positions and other power structures. No truly nice person would think of constructing a political issue out of a harmless request. Fake people would. Their intention pierces their masquerade as soon as they feel even the slightest pressure.
Today's Conclusion: Steer clear of the fakes
There is no point in telling a person that you have seen through their costumes and false pretenses. This will only push them into a corner and build up unnecessary pressure in your direction. Better to keep your findings to yourself and draw your conclusions. If you can, avoid such individuals. They are rarely up to any good, and if their treacherous plan works, you would do well not to be around. When in doubt, let their actions speak for them. Pretty words cost nothing and pretty appearances can be quite dazzling. That's it for today.