Unhappy? How You Can Get Out of YOUR Dark Period (Even If It Feels Impossible!)
Bring joy back into your life. Life owes you nothing, but you owe it everything, and you owe it to yourself to make the best of it. Those who were born in our latitudes have already been given enormous starting advantages, things the majority of mankind can only dream. But those who don't know any different can quickly fall prey to the misconception that everything can be taken for granted. At some point, we no longer enjoy our lives, but consume and devour them like a free all-you-can-eat buffet. So every luxury and every little pleasure quickly loses its appeal. Those of us who are only on the fast track and constantly comparing ourselves with others will no longer be able to conjure up a nice minute in our everyday lives. So we reach a point where dissatisfaction takes hold. Dissatisfaction is one of those habits that can't take a subtle hint and has to be shown the door firmly. After all, once you've succumbed to her dark charm, the dark side has won. Don't let that happen. In this article, we'll show you a few ways to fall in love with your life all over again.
What exactly is causing you to be unhappy?
The first important step out of the darkness of a negative mindset is root cause analysis. All too often, we let little things drag us down to the point where we block out everything else or make it look bad. Try to get to the root of your unhappiness with brutal honesty. One thing is certain, blaming others will only work well for a little while. If it is convenient for you, you can blame your boss, your colleagues, your partner, or your children for the fact that nothing in your life fits and pleases you anymore. But they are neither the real problem nor the solution. Both lie somewhere in you and no one can find them but you. The only pilots and captains of our lives are us. So if we took a wrong turn at some point recently, it was our wrong decision, not someone else's. Blaming society, or the system, or the economy, or the world political situation won't get you anywhere either, and certainly won't get you out of your dark chambers.
Are you ready for change?
If not, everything will remain as unsatisfactory as it is right now. Dissatisfaction is like a wall that keeps us from moving forward and at the same time keeps us safe. It takes courage to bring about change, so we prefer to choose to stay in our stifling comfort zone, keeping our lust and joyless existence alive like a coma patient. Needless to say, it's a pity for every day, indeed every minute, to put up with such vegetation just because you're too cowardly or too comfortable for change. Nothing in your situation will change for the better by itself. Mankind knows miracles of course and they also happen, but they are reserved for the courageous and anarchists, the rebels and lateral thinkers. Only those who take the reins and control can turn bad into good and negative into positive. So you have two options, you remain dissatisfied and behind your possibilities, or you tackle things and become active. If you were to die tomorrow, which of these would have been the right decision today?
The solution is compassion plus discipline plus self-worth.
We're deliberately outlining the facts here in black and white because change always requires us to take an all-or-nothing attitude. No one has ever conquered the world with soft compromises and soft knees. If you want to at least improve yours, or maybe even bring a breath of fresh air into your own four walls, you must be strict with yourself, but compassionate and understanding in equal parts. There is no point in tearing yourself apart because you have lost the thread and lost sight of your intended good life. Self-discipline instead of self-flagellation is the recipe for success here. Look at the development that brought you here into unhappiness and frustration. You certainly didn't let it get this far on purpose, did you? Always be good to yourself, that's important, but also recognize when the time for self-indulgence must be over. Above all these considerations must be the question of how much you value yourself. If there is still a spark of healthy egoism in you, take it out of the mothballs and refurbish it. You will need it now more than ever. Remember, be good to yourself. You owe yourself the best life and that's what you're getting back now.
Get your team on board.
Team building is a promising buzzword that has saved many a professional collaboration from crashing. It's just interesting that we never use this logic in our private lives, isn't it? Who is the team in your life? Does it mainly consist of you and everyone else is dragged along in a life raft? Who helps you when the going gets tough? Are you really on your own, or if only when the garbage needs to be taken out or the fridge is empty? What does teamwork actually mean in real life? Are partners really by your side, or are they just the beneficiaries of an arrangement that looks suspiciously like assisted living? What about the children? Might they not be old enough for a little more responsibility? Do you have parents, friends, neighbors who could help? There are so many reasons why a once beautiful and happy life suddenly feels like a straitjacket, or a pair of shoes that are two sizes too small. The good news is, it's never too late to start over. If you alone are responsible for it, all the better. Make yourself a winner again. You're the best team in the world if you want to be. If, on the other hand, you have to convince a few people first that things can't go on like this, you won't be able to avoid a crisis meeting and serious intervention. The symptoms that are choking you now and make you hardly feel a spark of joy have causes. You have to fight them if you want the situation to improve.
Today’s Conclusion.
Sweep in front of your own door. Often we are dissatisfied because we compare ourselves to others. We then do not see the many good and beautiful things that have been allotted to us, but all those things that we cannot have. We think other relationships are better, or think everything would be good with a partner by our side. We see other people's luxurious life and carefree attitude without questioning how much of it is real and true. Rather look at yourself, don't be afraid of change or unpopular decisions. It's your life and you have every right to demand a beautiful one. That's it for today.